Dr. Michael Dadson reviews the fondations for effective therapy with couples.
1. Develop and establish with both partners, a strong therapeutic alliance. A Registered Clinical Counsellor will work to establish a space that is safe and trusting, allowing both you and your partner to be comfortable sharing thoughts and feelings.
2. Focus on the present moment and the couple's current issues. Addressing the past is important for the purposes of improving the present and changing the trajectory of the future. Understanding how the past effects the present may take time and iit is always for the purpose of understanding the present rather than just dwelling on past conflicts or events.
3. As a couple, entering into couples counselling helps you to identify and express your emotions in a healthy and constructive way. This includes helping and teaching couples to:
Experience what it is like to use effective communication skills
How couples can effectivly address conflict
Heal relationship ruptures
Build emotional intimacy
Learn modelling skills for managing stress and difficult emotions, such as mindfulness and relaxation techniques.
4. Explore the underlying emotional and psychological factors and addressing issues that are inhibiting intimacy and contributing to the couple's conflicts. A good couples counsellor should also identify and address individual issues, also be aware of any individual issues that may be impacting the relationship and work toward effectively addressing them in therapy.
5. Identify the negative patterns in the relationship. A good couples therapist will help couples to recognize their patterns of engagement, emotional themes and potential behaviors that are causing conflict or damaging the relationship. Counselling can woirk to modify or eliminate these behaviours and help a couple to work towards repairing past hurts. A therapist should help the couple to work through and repair any past hurts or traumas that may be impacting their current relationship.
In the video below, Dr.Dadson reviewes some of the important things couples discover once they enter into counselling.
Couples Group Program is
being launched by renowned mental health expert, Dr. Michael Dadson. It
addresses the critical need for couples to develop the interpersonal skills
required to deepen intimacy and make love last in a relationship.
LANGLEY, BC, Feb. 14,
2023 /CNW/ - Top rated Langley, BC marriage counsellor,
Dr. Mike Dadson, announces a new "Couples Group" program to
address the most difficult issue facing couples today.
Dr Michael Dadson on Couples Counselling
According to Dr. Dadson:
"There is a natural process and evolution in
relationships. Communication and the art of sending, listening, and receiving
the messages, build your relationship from the inside out."
The Problem: Couples can lack
interpersonal skills to establish deep and lasting intimacy which allows the
relationship to grow through time.
Love hurts and especially
romantic love. Relationships, particularly, are one of the most meaningful ways
for humans to find purpose, contentment and happiness. Dr. Michael
Dadson reminds couples that "resolving your differences through
collaborative decisions allows you to stay on the same team!"
Dr. Michael Dadson relates"My experience with couples is that, often, couples care deeply about one another. They want the relationship to work, but often there is a gap or failure in the communication process where there are things that aren't spoken that need to be spoken".
In the video below, Dr. Dadson reviews why counselling can be helpful for couples.
The Approach: Couples Working
Groups
Intensive Work Group for Couples:
"Making Love Last"
Led by renowned men's mental
health specialist, Dr. Michael Dadson:
·Date: For upcoming dates please call 778-554-0174)
·Duration:
2 days / 8-hour sessions (16 hours total)
·Location: 20103 40
Ave #107, Brookswood, Langley, BC V3A 2W3
·Cost: $1,099.00
·Size of
each group: 10 couples
Who Can Benefit from the Group:
·Couples
needing to learn when forgiveness is and is not necessary
·How to
rebuild lost trust
·Healing
the past and embracing the future
Couples having difficulty or who
are suffering from a wide variety of issues, including the following, can
benefit from Dr. Michael Dadson's Couple's workgroup:
·Family /
couple conflict or trauma
·Depression
·Anxiety
·PTSD
·Adjustment
issues
·Anger
management
Since early 2020, Mike
Dadson has voiced concern for couples, and points out that communication
skills are critical to resolve conflict, mend ruptures, and deepen security and
closeness in a couple's love life.
According to Dr. Michael
Dadson:
"Communication and the art of listening,
sending & receiving messages, will build your relationship from the inside
out. How a conversation is started, often predicts how it will end.
Learning the 4 essentials to conflict resolution and how to have a difficult
conversation with someone who matters" is important.
Dr. Michael
Dadson recommends that couples focus on communication skills before a
rupture becomes a crisis:
"Listening leads to understanding."
1.Pause, reflect, consider the
motional state of mind.
2.Attending to the
micro-relationship messages in the eyes, the face, the tone and volume.
3.Learn to interpret the message
from the other person.
4.Reflect and check to see if the
interpretation is correct.
5.The goal is to help partners to
not only be understood but to feel understood.
In his practice at Gentle Currents Therapy Counselling Clinic,
Dr. Michael Dadson helps clients with trauma, anxiety, depression,
and PTSD, with a focus on couples counselling, first responders, and male
mental health.
Due to Dr. Dadson's
specialization in working with men, he finds that couples will often seek out
his services as he can help women understand:
"Men process emotions differently due to
their biology and cultural conditioning".
ABOUT:
Dr. Michael (Mike) Dadson,
in Langley, British Columbia, is the Senior Clinical Director at Gentle
Currents Therapy - Counselling and Neurofeedback Therapy. Dr. Dadson is a
widely published author, ranking among Langley's top rated
marriage counsellors.
Dr.
Mike Dadson identifies when it is critical to seek counseling when you
are affected by a traumatic incident, or you are suffering from PTSD:
If your daily life or your growth and development are affected by something
traumatic that’s happened in your past, or even in the present. Or, if
there’s a particularly invasive or difficult life circumstance and you are
having difficulty being able to adjust or cope.
Engaging in a pattern of unhealthy coping behaviours.
A PTSD experience either past or present. An experience from the
past that is still having a highly impactful stress on your life. Or it
could be an overwhelming encounter with a life-threatening traumatic
experience. When a person feels like their life or well-being is
threatened, PTSD is common. Past events from childhood trauma such as abuse
that is physical, sexual, or even verbal can trigger PTSD and exacerbate the
issues above.
If you are overcome with anxiety, panic attacks, or depression.
When you are depressed for more than a few weeks, or you have been
exposed to acute stress for more than a few weeks.
Unresolved Trauma with Dr. Mike Dadson
Dr. Mike Dadson indicates:
Post-traumatic stress disorder can
result if untreated traumatic stress is not addressed. Long-term physical or mental
health problems such as (PTSD can develop). To improve your mental and physical
health, developing a plan to manage your symptoms along with coping strategies is
a key piece in a treatment plan.
Neglect has been found to be extremely traumatic
for children (Schore, 2003; van der Kolk, 1994), indicates Dr. Dadson. However,
Dr. Dadson notes, when there is an absence of something necessary it can be
difficult to put the experience of neglect into words compared to bruises that
are visible sign of physical abuse.
Amid the media frenzy surrounding the Johnny Depp Vs. Amber Heard trial, Dr. Michael Dadson, poses important questions regarding their allegations.
If Heard’s allegation are true and she is a victim of single direction domestic abuse, then she draws attention to a very serious and dangerous reality for many people, usually women.
What if it isn't true?
Sadly, some young men have lost their lives to suicide under the weight of allegations that have later been disproved. A whisper, an affidavit, a media story, an internet post, can lead to levels of online bullying that can decimate a person’s life and that of their children, causing lifelong mental and physical health issues, and the inability to make a livelihood.
According to Dr Michael (Mike Dadson), "an outdoor environment with fresh air, be it in cultivated gardens, or a more natural setting, can help bring calm to both our bodies and minds, and is especially great when we suffer from stress, anxiety, and depression. Walking, or finding a quiet place to sit and breath naturally, allows nature to reach out to us with calming benefits. This is also true when we are around water sources."
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